The last large family topic posted was the comments that we receive about our family size.
Here's my take on it:
Of course, I get all of the same remarks as other parents of large families:
Don't you know how that happens?
Better you than me?
Are you "done"?
How do you do it?
You must be so patient!
I can barely handle my 2 (or 1, or 3 or ....)--I can't imagine 7!
Your grocery bill must be enormous!
You have a beautiful family. (This remark is often made by an older person, who then shares with me that they raised a large family, and how special it was/is.)
Your children are so well-behaved!
It doesn't even seem like there are 7 of them!
I am one of 7 (or 6 or 8 or....) and it was SO much fun! (I get this one a LOT, and only once have I had a young woman share that she did NOT like being part of a large family. I find this remark very affirming, that adults who were once children in a large family will take the time to stop and tell me how great it was.)
Overall, I get a lot of incredulous looks, but probably as many or more nice remarks as negative ones. Daryl, who works in a university setting, gets a lot of remarks, because academics in general have very few children, so he is truly an anomaly. Yet he is one of the most "productive" (pun intended!) in his field!
1 month ago